Raising Children Who Refuse To Be Raised

Raising Children Who Refuse To Be Raised is a handbook no natural, foster or adoptive parent should be without. Anyone who lives or works with children with multiple problems who are also frightened, traumatized and angry will benefit from the advice of this master counselor and foster parent.Janine Gordon, M.D., Board Certified Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist: "If you are the parent or therapist of a child who lies, steals, is hyperactive, traumatized, distrustful, aggressive, belligerent or explosive, you will find in this book the fundamentals of parenting such a child. Dr. Ziegler is a dedicated practitioner and foster parent who writes from his 30 years of experience of living and working with children who have multiple problems. He looks at traditional understandings of behavior disordered children with a critical fresh eye. Any parent with a difficult child to raise could benefit from his suggestions. This book will inform, engage, challenge and disarm you, but most of all it will give you hope."Beverly James, M.S.W., Therapist, Author and Trauma Expert:"Among the most misunderstood children are survivors of profound abuse and neglect, often beginning in utero. These youngsters get multiple diagnostic labels such as ADD, ADHD, OCD, ODD, PTSD, Bipolar, FAS, RAD, etc. They're not mentally ill! The adaptive behaviors they've created for survival are the very ones that confound, frustrate and frighten even the most patient caregivers and therapists. Dr. Dave Ziegler writes with the clarity that comes from working with these kids for 30 years. He provides a great mix of wisdom, humor and practical tools for families and their therapist/coaches. The safe emotional environment he describes combines optimal structure and appropriate limits with nourishment and compassion. Going beyond behavioral management, he shows how to create a context of hope wherein they can begin to accept their past, allow people to love and care for them, and finally bloom and develop."Dan and Edie Vink, Adoptive Parents: "When we first met Dave, we had a merry-go-round life -- predictable, safe, married, no kids. Our first daughter came along when she was twelve years old, with two failed adoptions and many challenges. We were in way over our heads! Through his common sense, down-to-earth approach, Dave took us from Parenting 101 to graduate school. He can make the hardest principle understandable and user friendly. We now have five special needs daughters; they are growing up with successes in their lives and are becoming confident in their self-worth. With Dave's help, we have grown right along with them."